Snob Queen
- Christine
- Nov 27, 2020
- 3 min read
Do you know me as a snob or as a welcoming person? Somebody once called me a snob queen! I thought about it a lot and narrowed down to the following reasons;
When you text me for the first time, please do a proper introduction! Tell me who you are, how you got my number (if it's Whatsapp or text) and let me know what you want.
Something like; hey, I’m ____. I got your number from _____ and I’m texting you about___.
I promise I do the same plus I think it’s a very courteous move. Don’t come at me with ‘guess who?’ when you know very well I have no idea. (Okay!! I use that line sometimes but only when I have hot tea and I’m telling a friend.)
I always insist on knowing where you got my number because, when I was newly on Facebook, I had left my phone number accessible to the public hence I used to get many of those random Indian men texts. You know them? Videos of gift boxes opening only to find a flower and the words I love you plus numerous video calls. When I ask you how you got my number I want to know if there are any places I need to take care of. Other than that I will be pretty cool if a friend gave it to you or something.
I take 3 -5 business days to reply and I am not proud of this. As a matter of fact, I am trying to improve my texting game. This is how it happens. I will be online for two days then I skip a day and like it. Then it's two then three and before I know it, it's been five days of not texting. All along, I will be thinking in my head ‘I should go online and see 'wasshpoppin’ but keep pushing it forward. So I finally get back online reply to messages, check up on people and before they reply or I’m done with conversations, I go offline and the cycle continues. My sister says I reply after 3 years and she normally calls me to check my WhatsApp because she probably sent a message I haven’t seen.
It may sound weird, but certain times (most times) I go for days without being online and that feels peaceful for me. I end up missing important things like friends’ birthdays, celebrations and other important dates and I feel bad about that.
I forget people’s faces. No lie! Context makes all the difference for me. If I met you at an event, for example, I probably wouldn’t recognize you on the streets but if we went back to the same place I would know you. it happens a lot with people I just met. I will walk by and not recognize you. Not that I am ignoring you, I am just bad with faces until I get used to you in different places. When I eventually do, I will notice you anywhere, anytime from miles away.
Whatever you do, just don’t ask for my photos! I will leave you on delivered.
I think I update my profile picture twice a year, post my photos on my status not so often. Where do you think I’ll get photos to send to you? Plus, every photo has something it shows.
When you ask for my photo, I tell you I am looking for it. I go to my photos, look for a good picture and then I’m not sure what exactly you want to see. When I can’t settle for one I end up not sending at all. You will think I 'snobbed' you but I really don’t have a photo that seems appropriate to share with you.
When I raise my eyebrows, I am saying 'hi, how are you and I'm glad to see you.' When you raise your eyebrows too, I assume we are good and we said hi.
This much I have learnt from being myself: What other people do or how they treat you is not always about you. It could be something about them, what they are dealing with or just how they communicate. When you think that someone ignored you because you are not important or they were rude to you because you are a bad person, you are being very unfair to yourself.
A friend always said, assume the best. That is to mean, you should always think positively of other people and their intentions until they prove otherwise.
Meanwhile, I am working towards becoming a better communicator.
That’s it from me this week.
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//Till next time✌🏽//
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