Is it objectification when he is loaded?

I saw this post on a friend’s WhatsApp status and it caught my attention. As someone who detests objectification of women and also really loved the Fifty Shades film trilogy, I was confused for a second. I neither agree nor disagree one hundred percent.

First, what feels objectifying for one woman may not feel objectifying for another. I for one do feel that music videos objectify women a lot! Here is why: in a video where the men are fully dressed - with pants, t-shirts and even puffer jackets, the girls will have bikinis on covering just enough to not be flagged as nudity or inappropriate. When you ask another person though, that to them may be an appreciation of beauty. More specifically, if you ask the girls in the videos, they probably don’t feel objectified. In the same way there are people who will be offended by staring while others will not pay any attention or may even feel ‘validated’

I do believe there are things that will feel objectifying depending on who does it. For example, when my husband spanks me, (you’d think I’m married!) I’ll probably not have a problem with it. I might as well give the other cheek! But when a random person does it, it becomes offensive. I think to myself, what did you see when you looked at me? What gives you the audacity to do that?

I don’t think Christian objectified Anastasia. Their relationship was very sexual but it was something each of them consented to. When Ana wasn’t comfortable or realised she couldn’t give him/ be what he wanted, she let him know. They ended up compromising until they were on the same page on nearly everything - so why think the movie is based on a billionaire objectifying women as sexual objects? Most times, we see men as the sexual beings and women only as their subjects. In reality, women are as sexual as men are. So perhaps Ana wasn’t his object, they were just two people who mutually agreed to explore their interests together.

Well, money does have a way of making everything better or less bad. Not just for women but for men as well. Ever had people who say they’d rather be hit by a Range Rover than by a Probox? I think it's the same concept with objectification - not for everyone though.

So bottom line? I guess that each woman defines being objectified differently and everyone needs to acknowledge and respect that.

That’s it from me this week.

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